Parenting – Part 1

Parents are the most important teachers in their children’s lives. Children learn most of their moral values from their parents. Along with love and care, children require someone to discipline them. Parents are the best ones who can discipline them. When disciplined by a parent, child can understands that he/she is loved but has done something wrong and hence has been corrected.
Parenting is a process of child rearing. It involves spending time with child, chatting with them daily, teaching them good from bad, correcting them every time they do something wrong, teaching them manners, teaching them to share, loving them, playing them. Moreover support the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood.
Generally, psychologists have found that there are two main components of parenting styles.
One is responsiveness, or how much independence you are willing to grant. The other, for lack of a better word, is demanding- how mush strict obedience you require. How much obedience parent’s demand, how much freedom they grant, and how much these two behavior mesh go a long way toward defining the parents’ style.
These parenting styles fall into a generally accepted four broad categories. Though different researchers give different names to them, the styles usually are said to be Authoritarian , Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved .

Authoritarian parenting is more like a dictatorship. Authoritarian parents also have high expectations for their child’s behavior, but they do not want to hear the child’s opinion of the rules. Authoritarian parents are very strict and controlling. If their kids don’t behave as ordered, then those kids will be punished. Mom and dad know best and they are in-charge of the house. There is no negotiation in this parent-child relationship.
Thus, these parents are highly demanding but not very responsive. Researchers believe children of authoritarian parents tend to be timid, have lower self-esteem, lack spontaneity, and rely to an unusual degree on voice of authority.

Authoritative or positive parenting is like having a democracy. Positive parents set up the rules and expect their children to follow them. These rules and limits guide children in behaving properly both in and outside the home. Positive parents are willing to listen to their children’s feelings and concerns and problem solve together. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible and self-regulated as well as cooperative.
Researchers have found, both the Authoritarian and Authoritative parents have high expectations for their children, but the Authoritative parent encourages more freedom of expression. So the child more likely develops a sense of independence. Such kids tend to develop into more complete adults than children brought up in the other styles.

Permissive parents often warm and accepting, make few demands on their children. They allow their child’s considerable self-regulation. They are much more responsive than they are demanding. The parents are just too busy, poor troubled or self-involved to exert much control. These parents do not expect mature behavior from their children and often seem more like a friend than a parental figure. Because there are few rules, expectations and demands, children raised by permissive parents tend to struggle with self-regulation and self-control.

Uninvolved parenting, sometimes referred to as neglectful parenting, is a style characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child’s needs. Uninvolved parents make few to no demands of their children and they are often indifferent, dismissive or even completely neglectful. These parents have little emotional involvement with their kids. While they provide for basic needs like food and shelter, they are uninvolved in their children’s lives.

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